from the land of boredum and dissappointment

Today hasn't been a very eventful day. I wasn't really in the mood to do anything. I told my friend that we would go see Bride Wars but when I thought about it today, I realized I didn't want to go. I had already seen it twice and honestly the second time was one too many. I went anyway of course because I hate to be ditched by my friends so I try to never do that to someone else. I also went to another friends jewelry party...not really my thing but I like to be there for my friends. Quite the opposite case for my friends liking to be there for me. I have pretty much given up on my so-called, "best friend." Here's the deal with that...she is dating someone that is no good for her. He is holding her back by letting her coast along as she has been for the past year and it's no good at all. She used to have such a drive to do something with her life and now she isn't doing anything. She has no job and isn't taking any classes. She just stays up his butt all the time and hardly talks to her family and friends. I know it's her life but I can't help but think she is wasting it. She is a serial dater. Her relationships are based on convenience and she fools herself into thinking its love when its not. I tried to tell her this and she just brushed it off. Recently, we hadn't really hung out at all and she called me and said we should hang out like old times and that was nice. We stayed on the phone for two hours at least and it was nice to talk but of course the plans didn't hold. I called her one day after I got out of school and offered to pick her up and invited her to the gym w/ me and then we could goto her mom or dad's house to hang out and she said no. She had to help her b/f move. That was fine. She said she was going to her mom's house later on and would call me when she got there. That never happened. We've talked once since and she never said anything like sorry, such and such came up and i didnt get a chance to call...nothing like that at all. I know she had been looking for a job recently and I found one that wouldn't be too bad so I called to tell her about it and she didn't answer. What could someone who is unemployed and not in school be doing that they can't be bothered to answer their phone? W/e I thought, I'll just leave a voicemail...nothing. I text her and asked if she got said voicemail...nothing. I am really fed up with this. Another thing that isn't right...one of our mutual friends is having a baby and she was supposed to help throw the baby shower and she completely flaked out on that. She ignored our friend's call and didn't even make an excuse as to why. She hasn't spoken to her since. Not. Cool. All of this aside...I'm still willing to be her friend because whether she knows it or not, a lot of people in her life have given up on her and I don't want to be one of them. This person that she is right now, is not the person she is supposed to be. She is better than that and doesn't need to be dating some loser drug dealing, pool shark that has no legitimate form of income and the intelligence of a empty can of soup. I want her to wake up and smell the wilted roses and realize that you can't just coast through life if you want to be someone. You can't just base your life on a relationship that you claimed was out of boredom. Lying to yourself won't fix anything. You have to live your own life and not just attach yourself onto someone elses in hopes that it will give you purpose. I honestly hope she finds a purpose and doesn't become one of the sad people from this town that winds up pregnant and has to take a dead end job, in a relationship devoid of love because you got trapped into it and all you feel is resentment for the other person. I would hate that for her but if she keeps up this way, she won't find anything but how could she, she's not looking for anything.